A few weeks ago I read the article below, and took a good look at how far I have come in the last year. I’m finally beginning to measure success in the right way. Counting important the things that actually matter. Things I will hold dear on my death bed, without regret.
Here is a portion of that article:
11. You hear “I love you” often, from friends, family or a partner.
12. You’ve accepted what you can’t change, but change what you can’t accept.
13. You don’t complain much, but instead focus on solutions.
14. You don’t blame your parents, and accept them for who they are.
15. You stopped caring about what others think of you.
…wow. To think, those were not always things I sought after or counted as important/successful parts of my life.
Today I was walking into Starbucks when I noticed a girl I knew in High School sitting outside the cafe, tanning with her feet up, sipping a frapp, texting away. She looked like someone stuck in High School quite frankly. It was as if she had nothing better to do than “look cute” by the Starbucks entrance. I don’t know everything she has done with the last ten years of her life, but it made me wonder… Was it successful? Was it successful in the way she thought it should be, in the way the world around her views success, in the way this article defines success? Or was she stuck as the “pretty”, popular, flirt from High School. Not know how to be anything else. (Maybe her life is wonderful and successful. Maybe she is happy and at peace with it. I don’t know. I’m just wondering out loud)
Stop and evaluate where you’re at today. Do you feel successful? Is it true success? Will you have many regrets in 10 years, 30 years? I have found that a lot of people who had it “together” and were “popular” in High School haven’t gotten much past that. Success was measured differently and it didn’t get them too far. For me, it was how I measured success in College that could have really stunted the rest of my life. Maybe it’s a good time to throw away the old tape measure and start looking at success in a new light. I hope you come up somewhere between encouraged and challenged.