Welcome Koda – Our Newest Addition to the Family

It’s FriYaY!

I hope that your week was as crazy adventurous as mine (minus a bit of the emotional stuff, but I blame that on the Super Blood Moon Eclipse) I have been working really hard to live “Intentionally”, but it proving to be more difficult than expected. People and circumstances are unpredictable and often discouraging. I don’t do well when people cancel plans or things do not work out the way they are supposed to. That is part of why I just DON’T do things. Today I was about to cancel plans with someone because I assumed they would not want to after someone else canceled in the group. Come to find out they felt the same way. We were both afraid the other person wouldn’t want to do something and assumed instead of being open and expecting a good turn of events. Now we have a great day planned and I am stoked for some Friend Time!

 

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Every Thursday I am doing a Journal Prompt on Instagram. This week’s was very appropriate to what I am dealing with right now. I self-sabotage my Friend Time by assuming they have plans or will cancel or don’t really want to spend time with me… and I miss out! I need to stop those negative thoughts and words and replace them with intentional words and thoughts that will bring me to a place of being able to spend quality time with people and invest into relationships and myself.

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Another place in my life I am being more intentional is in my Dating Life (yes, I am still married). When we were first married we made it a point to have Date Night no matter how busy or poor we were. Somewhere in the midst of moving, Careers, job changes, car accidents, kiddo with ASD, and new puppy we have forgotten about Dating. (yes, I threw the new puppy there in the middle of a sentence) Now I plan one Date Night a month on the calendar (and get a sitter in advance) and we have a lunch date once a week when Kiddo is in school and we are both off from work (if the stars aline once a week that is).

 

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Today we went to Brunch at “First Watch”. It was amazing! That bacon was caramelized in Maple Syrup, brown sugar, and cayenne. I have honestly never felt so good after indulging in pancakes. I think this will be my new favorite brunch spot.

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And the moment you’ve been waiting for… meet Koda! ❤ He is Labmix and Great Pyrenees. 6 weeks old. These two are already best friends. Our goal is for Koda to become Kiddo’s Service Dog.

 

I hope you have a Great Weekend!!!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Date Night Ideas

I got my hair cut today and it feels AMAZING! I keep saying I want to grow it back out long… but I really LOVE it short. The woman was incredible patient as kiddo sat in the cart (I went to the Salon inside Wal-Mart) and played the same game over and over (annoying sound effects and all). In case you didn’t recolonize it, that’s my $1 Thrifted Sweater (so cozy with the 59 degree weather today)

 

I wish it were Date Night because I feel amazing, but unfortunately he has to work tonight. I was thinking of taking kiddo to see the Tree Lighting and Parade tonight, but I am going to NOT put us through that. Downtown Ft Worth is EXTREMELY crowded and I know he would be overwhelmed and I could not keep tabs on him by myself. I am going to check a more local listing and see if there is a smaller tree lighting happening later this month.

Back in October we had a really FUN date night. One of the best I’ve had in a while. I decided to plan everything out 2 weeks in advance. Sitter, times, where we would eat, where we would go, what we would do, etc. I “schedule texted” the addresses to Hubby in a specific order giving us enough time at each place without feeling rushed and without getting board. It was PERFECT. The worst part about Date Night is deciding what to do. This took that conflict away and we had a blast. First stop was a Hole-in-the-Wall restaurant we would have never tried without prompting (it was delicious) Second stop was a Book Store (we bought a game to play) Last stop was a Coffee Shop (I had a list of questions to ask each other and a 30 second timer off of YouTube). If you struggle with making decisions in the moment or procrastinating planning Date Night, I have one more idea for you…23768737_10214358109527575_137599240_o

 

I received this game from Blogging for Books. It is a fun, role playing game to get things interesting on Date Night. If you are bad at choosing where to go or just want to spice things up, give this game a whirl. Don’t worry, not all the options are something you could get kicked out of a restaurant for 😉 23798324_10214358108967561_1505257840_o

Pick a “where” “what” and “who” card in put it in the envelope then give it to your partner with a Date and Time card that you fill out.23768733_10214358108807557_1033702039_o

I hope you have a great weekend!

Leave me a comment about how you make Date Night amazing!

Homemade Chicken Soup for the Married Soul

No, I’m not referring to that book your Mother-in-Law keeps in the bathroom magazine rack and you always end up teary eyed over some sappy story.

         I’m talking abwpid-20130925_175211.jpgowpid-20130926_174106.jpgut actual chicken soup… and nurturing the married soul.

Last night my husband the chef made an amazing roast chicken. Easily the BEST chicken I have ever tasted. Among other spices, he used honey butter and sriracha sauce. On the left you see the roast half devoured, and the right is the broth that I made today by boiling the juices and bones. This will most definitely be the best chicken soup that I have ever made.

As I was multitasking and working hard to make sure our bodies were nourished today, I started to think about our marriage. It too needs a little homemade chicken soup. Not that it is sick, but that it is in need of deep saturating nurturing,

as ALL marriages are.

Below are a few things that I wanted to share with you to get you in the mood to nurture and grow your marriage.

Try this CHALLENGE that I heard at a recent Marriage Conference we attended. 14 Days of Praise. Publicly and privately praise your spouse. Tell them what you love about them. Be specific. If it is appropriate to say in front of other, DO IT. Write it on their Facebook wall. Say it in front of your friends. If it is more personal, write it on a note to stick in their lunch. Surprise them with coffee at work and write it on the cup. Be creative. After 14 days you will have a better appreciation and awareness of your spouse and they will feel loved and understand even more how to love you.

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Read this article about how this man feels about love and what it REALLY is:

“I Didn’t Love My Wife When We Got Married”

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DATE NIGHT – When is the last time you had Date Night? When is the last time you WENT SOMEWHERE for Date Night? It may seem silly or just another thing to check of your “To Do” list, but it isn’t.

Drawn up by the United States National Marriage Project, which operates out of the University of Virginia, the findings of the report on the impact of regular dating on married couples are profound. Couples, it says, who even find one day a week to go out together have much less chance of winding up in the divorce courts than those who don’t – only 15 percent compared to 25 percent. And couples who have regular date nights score much higher in terms of a range of critical measures, including communication with each other, romantic love and commitment to the relationship. They also tend to carry significantly lower levels of stress. – See more at: http://www.mercatornet.com/articles/view/married_couples_need_to_date_too#sthash.ny5kzTyA.dpuf

Even if you do not have children and are able to spend time together on a regular basis, you STILL need time devoted to enhancing romance and feeding your relationship.  Remember to make it SPECIAL. Look your best. Do something exciting. Put away your PHONES. Even if it ends up being a night at home (which happens a lot for us since our budget doesn’t allow for out on the town every week) make it different than any other night. Focus on your spouse and be open. PS. Red is a color trigger for men. Wear something red even if you can’t dress up.

And lastly on this Friday night I leave you with this list:

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-TMW