Being a Mom

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I am currently sitting at the computer gagging on some whitening paste that didn’t rinse out of my mouth all the way and worrying about work, bills, and if I am a good enough mom. It’s tough. I’ll be the first to admit, I do not have this parenting thing down. I raise my voice too loud, I let him get away with things he shouldn’t and get upset with him for things I shouldn’t. I work too much. I worry too much. I zone out on my phone when I could be on the floor exploring the world of trains and cars from his perspective. Yet, at the end of the day he just wants to poke my face and snuggle up close. He loves me despite all my short comings and flaws. Why? Cause I’m his mom. He doesn’t need me to impress him or have my life together. He just needs me to sit still long enough to let him hug me and show me some unconditional love.

Book Review – Messy Grace by Caleb Kaltenbach

I think this is one of those books that could not have come out at a better time. I know it will most likely get misconstrued in one way or another. I also assume that it will hit like a wave and become the latest Christian Book Store fad for a few months. After all of that, I also know that it will plant a message in the hearts and minds of those who read it. The message that “all people are messy”.

Caleb speaks from the experience of growing up in the LGBT community. As he shares his personal stories you will see how as a pastor with gay parents, he learned to love others without sacrificing conviction.

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“being unloving to gay people in your life is a sin”

This book goes even deeper than just the LGBT community. It is how we should love and see EVERYONE.

People have depth. Homosexuality is about far more than sex. People are more complex than that. Get to know them for who they are and where they are.

Later in the book Caleb talks about how the church should be somewhere we can discuss the “messy” things. Finances, marriage issues, porn, gossip, homosexuality, greed, etc. Messy should be normal, not something we are afraid of and unprepared to deal with.

Jack Graham say, “Messy Grace is pure truth spoken in love and will help you relate to every person in a way that pleases God.” and honestly I couldn’t agree more!

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Messy Grace by Caleb Kaltenbach is available for purchase October 20, 2015.

You can pre-order it at messygracebook.com

**I received this book from Blogging for Books in exchange for my review**

Homemade Chicken Soup for the Married Soul

No, I’m not referring to that book your Mother-in-Law keeps in the bathroom magazine rack and you always end up teary eyed over some sappy story.

         I’m talking abwpid-20130925_175211.jpgowpid-20130926_174106.jpgut actual chicken soup… and nurturing the married soul.

Last night my husband the chef made an amazing roast chicken. Easily the BEST chicken I have ever tasted. Among other spices, he used honey butter and sriracha sauce. On the left you see the roast half devoured, and the right is the broth that I made today by boiling the juices and bones. This will most definitely be the best chicken soup that I have ever made.

As I was multitasking and working hard to make sure our bodies were nourished today, I started to think about our marriage. It too needs a little homemade chicken soup. Not that it is sick, but that it is in need of deep saturating nurturing,

as ALL marriages are.

Below are a few things that I wanted to share with you to get you in the mood to nurture and grow your marriage.

Try this CHALLENGE that I heard at a recent Marriage Conference we attended. 14 Days of Praise. Publicly and privately praise your spouse. Tell them what you love about them. Be specific. If it is appropriate to say in front of other, DO IT. Write it on their Facebook wall. Say it in front of your friends. If it is more personal, write it on a note to stick in their lunch. Surprise them with coffee at work and write it on the cup. Be creative. After 14 days you will have a better appreciation and awareness of your spouse and they will feel loved and understand even more how to love you.

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Read this article about how this man feels about love and what it REALLY is:

“I Didn’t Love My Wife When We Got Married”

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DATE NIGHT – When is the last time you had Date Night? When is the last time you WENT SOMEWHERE for Date Night? It may seem silly or just another thing to check of your “To Do” list, but it isn’t.

Drawn up by the United States National Marriage Project, which operates out of the University of Virginia, the findings of the report on the impact of regular dating on married couples are profound. Couples, it says, who even find one day a week to go out together have much less chance of winding up in the divorce courts than those who don’t – only 15 percent compared to 25 percent. And couples who have regular date nights score much higher in terms of a range of critical measures, including communication with each other, romantic love and commitment to the relationship. They also tend to carry significantly lower levels of stress. – See more at: http://www.mercatornet.com/articles/view/married_couples_need_to_date_too#sthash.ny5kzTyA.dpuf

Even if you do not have children and are able to spend time together on a regular basis, you STILL need time devoted to enhancing romance and feeding your relationship.  Remember to make it SPECIAL. Look your best. Do something exciting. Put away your PHONES. Even if it ends up being a night at home (which happens a lot for us since our budget doesn’t allow for out on the town every week) make it different than any other night. Focus on your spouse and be open. PS. Red is a color trigger for men. Wear something red even if you can’t dress up.

And lastly on this Friday night I leave you with this list:

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-TMW